It’s hard to describe exactly what Erika gave to our family, as it was all so intuitive and seamless that we hardly noticed. What I can say without any understatement is that without her calming and loving presence there is no doubt in my mind that my amazing Mum’s passing would not have been as beautiful as it was.
It had been a complicated process to get us all to where we were that week. There are a lot of dynamics in my family, as there are in all families. Erika understood all of this. Totally without judgment, only compassion.
Erika holds space. That is sometimes an overused phrase, but in this context it is so vitally important. To be there as someone is passing into the spirit world is, to my mind – an incredible honor. It’s also a time when characteristics and behaviors that have played out over a lifetime can come to the fore. Erika has an inherent ability to allow these to come to the surface and then gently steer those present back to the reason that they’re all there. Again, without judgement, only compassion.
There are so many factors in play at this precious time. So many feelings, memories, echoes, resentments, unspoken words, looks, love…pain.. it’s all present. That’s why it’s such a unique and pivotal time for all of those there. Not to put too finer point on it, but these moments can shape the rest of people’s lives. Erika handles this all so delicately, with absolute love and respect.
There are not many words here about the ‘process’. I feel these are a given and Erika is very well aware of them all, and ensures they are all respected. What she brings is so much more than that. In a very gentle and quietly assuring way she allows everyone to fall apart, making sure they all get to where they need to be with pure intentions and gratitude. I will forever be grateful to her for this.